Describe the perfect relationship in 3 words…

We all want to be happy, but many associate happiness with being in a relationship. We spend a good part of our lives looking for a partner, a soulmate, yearning for the perfect love story… a story — something that belongs to the realm of imagination. Now if I think about it, I realize that I don’t know anybody who has lived such an ideal romance. Do you?

My parents are far from Hollywood’s standards, and despite that, they’ve been together for more than 25 years. Some of my buddies have long-lasting relationships even if I could’ve sworn multiple times that they would break up. I have some friends who got married and it’s not all milk and honey but as imperfect as they are, they are perfect for each other. All relationships have something in common: love. And I am not referring to the cliché version of this concept, but to the authentic one, in which you embrace the other with all its shadows and lights without trying to change him(her), but cherish your lover because he/she is.

The opposite of love is fear.

Fear, like love, is a state of consciousness. Fear blocks us, limits our development and expansion. Why can’t you love (have a relationship)?

Because you’re afraid.

Fear of commitment

Freedom also implies responsibility. Sure, you can be in a relationship and do everything that gets in your mind, but consider the impact that your actions will have on the dynamics between the two of you. You deserve the compromises that you are willing to do.

But what does freedom really mean for you? Why can’t you be free in a relationship?

Fear of intimacy

Fear of responsibility

What are the things you expect from a relationship or from a partner and that are now missing from your life? How could you get them in another way?

Concluding: the reason why you can’t find love is fear.

Warm hugs,


Writer with the soul of a poet. I'm trying not to take myself too serious. Deeply grateful that I can share my thoughts & emotions with you.

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