Alexandra Ciausescu

Jul 14, 2018

3 min read

Too many options?


Sometimes, when you get lost is not that you do not know where are you going but rather the path to get there. There are a lot of useful instruments one can use in his journey throughout life like a compass (your values) or a map (your objectives).

The problem with modern life is that we have too many options and we get stuck. It’s overwhelming and exhausting always asking yourself is this the best way possible? not to mention the itch you have always looking for a better opportunity while still trying to give your best to what you are doing now, but actually, you don’t because you think it’s not worth it…

Take a break. You don’t know what to chose? That is fine.

I don’t have a prescription for how to make the best selection there is. As far as I am concerned, that is more a matter of luck the conscious action. However, I know how to make an optimal decision.

You know that game with candies that have different flavours, some very sweet and pleasant and others gross that would make you throw up? I don’t know how you can always choose the vanilla one but at least you won’t taste onions.

The magic formula? Via negativa. This is a universal rule, when you do not know what you have to do or what to do, instead of adding up, start subtracting. If you want to lose weight for example, instead of adding fancy healthier foods, start cutting up meals. What to have more money? Instead of taking another part-time job, start cutting your expenses etc.

You don’t know what career to choose because you have many options? No worry, start experimenting. Why? You can’t you say you like or dislike something if you don’t try it. This method takes up more time resources in the beginning but it worth it, in the long run, you won’t do something unfulfilling. There are two case scenarios you can experiment with:

Let’s say you finally got that dream job you desired, working in a media agency. You discovered you don’t really enjoy it, you can either force your dream upon you, and it will work for some time, or have the courage to see the reality for what it is and eliminate this option.

You become a store manager. It’s not as fabulous as working in the media agency but you like the responsibility and the daily challenge. Still, a fashion designer would be better… true. You find something that you like but is not the perfect match, what you do?

I love the way Adina put it out: there is always better. The question is whether is attainable or not. You are a cooker but your dream-job is to be a baker, attainable, do it. You are a graphic designer but want to become a Tesla engineer, I don’t say you can’t but is very far fetched. How hard can you work and sacrifices can you do? Keep it real.

My point is that I have no idea how you can make the best choice, but I know how to make a good one. Have the courage to eliminate options and open doors.

Write down 10 jobs/careers/business ideas. Now start cutting them down. When you come down to 3 and can’t decide then start tying. First, try the one you desire the most, you like it, stick with it, you don’t? Next…

What did you choose?

Writer with the soul of a poet. I'm trying not to take myself too serious. Deeply grateful that I can share my thoughts & emotions with you.

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