If you don’t have something good to say then don’t say anything at all
Our outputs are not only determined by the way we truly feel now but they are going to determine how we will fell in the future. Why is that? I am going to explain it in the following paragraphs.
It is hard to say something nice when you are in pain. It is rare to be loved when all you give is hate.
I don’t believe in fake it till you make it. I prefer authenticity instead of forgeries. If you have a gloomy state and someone pisses you off very hard, first, get out of that situation (so your state won’t get worse) and two don’t create any type of output (we shape our environment through our thoughts, emotions and actions).
Think of your network of friends, family, colleagues, each represents a point that vibrates, receiving and giving. Most of the time they copy the inputs and send them forward. For example, you say something bad to your work colleague, it is not only highly possible that h will say something worse bad to you, but he might carry the negative wave you just generated further in your network and sooner or later, that negative wave will hit you a second time indirectly.
What happens when someone tells you something bad? First of all, as my mentor taught me (one of the best lessons of my life) it is not about you, it is about him. He is the one who has a problem, not you, he probably feels law, unworthy, having a bad day, and maybe you did nothing, you were just the wrong persona at the wrong time, so there is nothing wrong with you.
When you say something bad to someone you don’t only hurt that person but your brain and body mirrors that reaction and is like someone told you the same thing. Say to others what you would like to her when spoken to you.
If you want to give feedback to someone have in mind that the purpose of that is to help that others someone grow and evolve, not to hit them so hard that they cannot raise from the ground. Firm but gentle… always.
Sometimes we say bad things to others without realizing it. This can be a signal that something in our subconsciousness isn’t quite right and we should explore that so no further bad output would be generated.