First, you need to have in order to give.
No shit Sherlock…
Well, I see it very often, people that want to give something they don’t have for themselves. I see people that give love but they don’t love themselves. I see people that give advice to others but they themselves are still broken. I see people that trust others but don’t trust themselves. I see…
I see you
You can’t love someone if you don’t love yourself first. Or at least you can’t do it properly. You feel unable to love yourself so you try loving someone else and hope they would love you in return. Well, that might not happen. Also, that one may one day leave you and you’ll lose your love supply. Also, the place from where you generate love is ego and selfishness and what you call “love” is not really “love” but something related to fear. Start accepting who you are, be grateful for your uniqueness and then start loving who you are and only after then you are prepared to love someone else.
You shouldn’t give bits of advice you would not follow. If you do it because you haven’t been through the real experience that generated wisdom. It takes a broken one to recognize another. Don’t give guidance if you are not fully healed. If you have been through a changing experience, it leaves scars, and that is fine, acknowledge their existence, they prove your mastery. However, if you are still bleeding, it is too soon to do that because even if you are in convalescence you are still unsteady.
Fake it till you make it does not work because you don’t believe it is real. Pretend you are successful, others may bite it but you won’t you know the truth, you are fake and this consumes a lot of energy even if you have tremendous stamina. To believe you can do something and have trust in yourself is something else. Instead of making a big change and pretend it works, make small micro adjustments in your behaviour or perceptions that really do.
For any question, truth is the answer