/ greek deity,the personification of pity, mercy, clemency, and compassion /

What is forgivable and what is not?

Can society forgive someone for stealing?

Can you forgive someone for cheating?

Should the sinner of sinners be forgiven?

When should we forgive and when we should not?

Who shall we forgive and who shall we not?

I will start bottom-up. All men should be forgiven because they are ignorant and fragile creatures. No one does bad for the sake of bad unless they are mad. Most of them have been wounded and they react instinctually because after all, we haven’t evolved that much in the last millennium, we just have more sophisticated toys. Others may carry something that is to heavy for their delicate shoulders and feel like being crush by that burden, thus they live an agonizing life.

Why should you forgive them? Because forgiveness in its essence means letting go. It’s like having a backpack and constantly putting stones into it, it will get heavy, and there will be a moment when you will no longer be able to carry it and you will be the one who hurts others. In this way, you are only perpetuating the circle. Forgive those who wronged you, and get on with your life. You will be better, and unfortunately, their life will still be miserable, but everyone is in charge of their destiny. Additionally, if you spend all your energy with your bag full of rocks, you will not have enough for things that really matter like love or enjoying the moment.

You should always forgive. But learn from your lessons otherwise you will become a flower-power foolish. Learn and let go. I learned to be more compassionate from those who wronged me because I saw what lack of love can do. Many become cynical. That, I believe is poison for the soul and toxic for the act of being itself.

Should the sinner of sinners be forgiven? This requires a subjective answer. Can you forgive yourself?

Person A kills person B. Should A be forgiven?

No. It took a life. It is dangerous. An eye for an eye. Death penalty.

Yes. There is a divine spark into that person. The right to live of each individual is inviolable, even if A has broken this sacred rule. It is illogical to punish someone for killing by killing him or her.

What do you choose? Shall we forgive A or not?

What if A was a mother who killed B, her husband for being abusive to her and their child. What if B threatened to kill the child and A, protected it by stabbing her husband in a desperate act of defence?

Is still the same case. Do those details make any difference?

They should not. When this kind of things seems grey for you, please asses your system of values. Moral relativism is dangerous, likewise anorexic ethics.

I have my share part of sins, and I hope those who I’ve done bad can forgive me. I forgave myself everytime I misbehave. This means to admit that I am not perfect, that in some sense implies I am vulnerable because I can’t fully control myself. But by doing that, by admitting and working with my flaws, I allow myself space to grow, to be stronger and try to not do the same thing twice. But what has been done stays that way and I assume responsibility for that.

Before seeking forgiveness from others, we should first forgive ourselves.

if this post would be a colour, I think it would be blue

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