I am too sensitive…
What does it mean being sensitive?
Is it bad to have emotions?
Have you responded to the questions or you just passed through them superficially? Do not cheat…
We dream of robots that have emotions but we find it scary in humans.
Emotions are, actually, a cognitive translation of the sensations in the body. What I mean: depending on the context, your body translates the external situation that you’re into emotions. For example when your heart starts to beat faster and your palms are sweating your brain says `”fear”.
We were taught that emotions are something bad, something that we need to avoid because humans are rational beings. False. Man is capable of rational thought, but he is not always rational. We are emotional beings, in most cases, we do or not do something because we desire or not to fell in a certain way.
In a “hyper-rational” world, where everything needs to be efficient and calculated, we are horrified about the fact that we feel. Think about the last time you fell in love… all those emotions you wanted to get rid of… but why?
Let’s say that you accept your feelings… Do you really accept them?
Really? Are you ashamed to cry in front of others?
It doesn’t matter why… but are you ashamed? Why? Because of your feelings? Because of the fact that this is who you really are?
My mentor gave me this mantra: „It’s not my problem, it’s yours”. If you cry and the other ones are not comfortable with that it is their problem, not yours. But what if you cry and the others think that you are weak? How would they know who you really are?
One of the lessons that I am working on is to learn to allow to be myself. That means to allow me to be sensitive and thus switching my ego to “mute”. It’s hard. It’s hard to be sensitive, it’s hard to be yourself. It’s easier to wear a mask, to build defensive walls. Nothing touches you, nothing disturbs you, everything is indifferent to you. Really?
Emotions are short-term feelings — not more than 2–5 minutes. They are “algorithms” which generate answers to the external factors: boss (professor) -> danger -> fear. They are like a river which flows — you need to learn to swim through them. You cannot rush it, you need to accept it and let it flow.
If we are attached to an emotion it will be transformed into a feeling and it will remain with us a day, a week, years…
Building dams is not a good idea. Firstly, if the river of emotions will dry, there will be no more nourishing substances in your life, as consequence, you will feel empty because everything that is inside you died. Secondly, for a while, the dam will hold the river, but the water will keep accumulating in time and it will destroy the dam. The result? An emotional eruption that will come when you will expect less . Accept and learn how to navigate the river of emotions.
To be ashamed that you are sensitive means to be ashamed of being human. You are not too sensitive, but society became too insensitive.
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