We no longer search for a partner, someone with whom to build a family and have a house but someone to share experiences with. Our view of the world has shifted from the material one when a relationship was an economic enterprise to a more profound one. We chose our possible future husband /wife based on their view of the world, likes and dislikes, a particular way of being more than based on their monthly budget.
We don’t really look for a person, we search for ourselves in someone else in the hope they will understand, protect and support us. We are afraid to be lonely but most of the time we enjoy loneliness.
We are not searching for a partner but for happiness. An escape from all the pain and struggle of our mundane life. If 50 years ago people divorced because they were unhappy now they do it because they deserve to be happier. These days choosing to stay when you could leave is the new shame.
Our view of relationships and what a partner means change as our core values system does.