5 strategies to use when you can’t decide

Our lives are the sum of our choices.

There are no good choices or bad choices, there are only choices. Most of our choices are made out of habit: what am I going to eat in this morning, the coffee shop where I am going to meet my friend, how will I react when someone criticizes me etc. Sometimes we are confronted with more difficult situations, such as: what am I going to wear (the girls understand me, 30 minutes to wear different outfits in order to dress like the first time). When one encounters such a difficult task there are some strategies that can be employed.

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In this case, it is useful to remember how we acted in a similar situation in the past. For example, you don’t know what faculty you want to attend…How did you choose the high school that you went to? What were the criteria you took into consideration then etc. ?

A cost-benefit analysis represents another useful instrument. What am I going to obtain if I choose A? What am I going to lose? But what is going to happen in case B? Be honest and create a table with pluses and minuses for your choices and, in the end, do the math. What score is greater: A or B?

When you have to select one of two choices it is useful to think if there might be a third one. But it doesn’t exist a third one! Is it true? Try to change your perspective. If you don’t succeed, ask for someone else’s opinion. How does he see the things? (without telling him the choices that you reached to) How did he reach these conclusions? By the way, how did you end up with these two options? Sometimes, if we are looking for a long time from the same perspective, we risk growing roots thus, it may turn useful to take a step back.

In many cases, the decisions are about to stay or to leave…in a relationship, in a country, in a certain state. These decisions are about change and it’s essential to be clear in regards to the transformation that we wish. What do you want to reach? What would change if you opt for A? But B? What are you going to abandon in order to obtain B or A? What resources do you need? What obstacles you might confront?It might happen sometimes to achieve what we want, but none of the choices to be good, and to need afterwards to find the choices C, D or E.

Sometimes is not that we can’t decide, we actually took a decision long before but we actually try to postpone it because we do not desire to take responsibility for our option. Sometimes we wish that someone else would take the burden from us, therefore, we wait for that [erson or situation to manifest…Why do you keep postponing the moment? What is stopping you from taking action?

In the end, I want you to be aware of the fact that you have six instruments that can help you decide — therefore, you cannot say anymore that you cannot choose. What is your decision?

Warm hugs,


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